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Summary of Question: | Re: Friendship |
Category: | General Sikhism |
Date Posted: | Monday, 1/22/2007 8:22 AM MST |
So I know you might think this is "flirtation" or whatever but what I think is that this is just a good friend and NOTHING more!! So I am still very very very throughly confused though...what should I DO??? Should I stop communicating with him? But then I feel like I've betrayed someone cause he told me that he wants to cherish this friendship forever. I guess I am being stupid. I dont know...really. So I understand what you guys think about this whole thing, now I need to take some kind of ACTION adn I really dont know what that is. If you could help me further, that would be really really appreciated.
Once again, thank you so much for taking this matter seriously. I cant explain to you how great it feels to be talking to "wise adults" about all this and getting their advice. I dont know what life would be like without Sikhnet!!!!
THANK YOU!
Have a good one.
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Sat nam. What you should DO is stop focusing on and obcessing over this person. It is VERY hard for unrelated straight men and women to be friends without romantic or sexual desire getting in the way ultimately. Group events take the romantic pressure off, but really, when does a woman hang out with an unrelated man -- or vice versa -- without some kind of romantic agenda involved on at least one person's part? No offense to anyone meant. In your case, it will get in the way. Professional friendships in the workplace can be an exception, because what is held in common is the workplace.
Get on with your life. Find other friends, get involved in community or school activities and move on.
Guru ang sang,
DK