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Summary of Question:	Famil&Love
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Sunday, 12/15/2002 11:20 PM MST

sat"kal

well ive been a regular visitor to yr site &yr site hs really impressed u it i hve cut my hair but aftr iwent to yr site i hve started to go tothe local gurudwara almost daily.
will i hve 2 ques tions 1) what is the meaning of mu name sardar nitinpal singh plaha 2) well ive been seeingthis girl fr the last few days & we are good friend . just recently in my auntyies marriage i propposed this girl & she is pretty fine wth this .we do not wat to marry each other its just that i want to spent the best part of my life wth hr apart from paracticing sikhism .
our families does not know abt this . is thre any hng wrong in this . i am very muxh sure that i dont want to spent time wth hr beacause she is attractive . ioits just tht i enjoy staying wth fr
we have a very aged relative it seems hes got some devine powers whatevere he says is more or less true . onc he told my mom tht i need to stay away from females . i am confused . it will be gr8 if u cld reply my querry as soon as possibe
wahe guru ji ka khalsa wahe guru ji ke fateh
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Dear one,
You sound very confused. I have no idea of your age even. Perhaps you could give yourself a few more years before you allow yourself to fall in love with anyone.

Take some time finding out about 'who' you are. Learn about what your genuine interest and talents are. Pursue some studies or projects or hobbies that express your creative energy. You probably have a lot of creativity that you are not aware of. You can study a musical instrument...guitat, Sitar, Tabla to name a few. Take an art class or do some study of plants and science.

Girls and the passion can be a great distraction at any age. Being young is a great time to learn to be independent and self reliant. This is the one time in your life that you are really free of relationships and responsibilites. Enjoy yourself now.

I would reccommend that you do the meditation "Sat Kriya" for the next 90 days for 11 minutes. Work your way up to 31 minutes a day. You can find the description for Sat Kriya on the "search" in this Youth Forum.

May God bless you to find your inner joy, harmony and peace.
SKKK