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Summary of Question:	Re: About So Called "Sikh Girls"
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 6/03/2003 9:03 AM MDT

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this is in response to the posted comment "about so called girls." i am a 19 year old sikh girl residing in UK and i can say that you will find some sikh girls of your desire, who actually respect the morals of sikhism. it is just that there are few and i agree that india is getting worse. for the past two years i have had friends trying to get me out clubbing and drink alcohol but i have been very firm. this is all down to my parents where they sit and chat about sikhi. they are amritdharis but they are more in touch with this world and are aware of what it is becoming.

last year, i went to visit my cousin in canada. i saw that she had cut her hair and changed herself into a typical western girl.everytime i went to visit friends i found girls have cut their hair and it was kind of annoying. trust me i felt exactly they way u do and i wanted to go back to my hometown where i would find my crowd. i find that the way you described the US it is very similar to canada. my cousin is going to be 16 and she is at an age where she should know the rules of sikhism. she did not even know the mool mantra which i knew at the age of 5. i was curious as to why girls are different in canada compared to england and i found out from her that they just want to fit in and look nice.she was pressurised by her peers and her aunts to cut her hair. what was maddening about this was the fact that my masi ji did not do any thing about it. from them, i wished i could live with her and teach her everything i know and make her the sikh that she should have been. she has this desire ut she has no support. i was kind of upset with my cousin and i said to her that she let me down a lot. she cried after hearing this and promised me that she would not do it and will be strong. i told her about girls in the UK and she was comforted by the fact that there are girls out there like me and she can become one. with me i am very honest and i strictly said to her that she is not a sikh and if she calls herself a sikh the way she is, she is fooling herself because it is fake. i instructed her to call herself a sikh only when she starts to grow her hair.

so the solution to this is that it is all down to the parents and girls are not normally aware of what they are doing. basically they are just trying to fit in with the rest of the crowd.they look at sikhism as a religion with loads of strict rules and they cant follow it. i tried a different tactic with my cousin and told her that sikhism is actually fun. before i left canada, my cousin benefited and now she does part and she is growing her hair.

try and not look at the negative aspect of it and the girls you know, try and get out of them why they do these things....basically what does it give them?

im sure many sikh girls will appreciate the comment you posted and i sure do cos its true. i hope u eventually will find the girl of your desire and maybe your comment will nudge "sikh" girls into thinking about the expectations of many sikh guys and change themselves when it comes to marriage.

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