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Summary of Question:	Re: What Can I Do?
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Friday, 1/23/2004 10:39 PM MST

Satnam,

I think you should go back and read your post. Read it from a neutral perspective . You may realize that emotionally you need to be strong and comfortable with yourself. I hope i can say this w/o offending you. It seems that you are dependent on others (men) to comfort you or provide you with emotional strength and attention. Sister, realize that you came alone and will leave alone. ALONE. So make yourself strong FIRST. Dont drag someone else into your confusion. About the guy who you love now, you need to ask yourself 2 questions: 1. DO you really really really love him unconditionalY? 2. In case you 2 are in same situation as you were with your fiance would you act like you did last time? Would you look to another man for comfort?
I think in a committed relationship no matter how tough the going gets you don't just jump to love with someone else. Don't put this guy through somehitng twice. Take the time to be alone, figure yourself out, make yourself strong. Attend to your banis, hey i am 23 and don't think i can't relate to your situation. But as a women and Guru's daughter make yourself strong. So Strong you don't get played or no one can play you. Its karma you reap either way. SOmetimes you have the choice to do good or bad karma. Choice is yours.
Good Luck!

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Well said.