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Summary of Question:	Father's Death
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 5/08/2007 12:37 PM MDT

If you have time please respond.

My father passed away unexpectedly at the end of January he was only 46. He had a blood infection (the doctor thinks from a cut or a bite) that spread to his heart. He leaves behind my mother (44)me (26) and my brother (23).

My father was a good man and loved god - although he was not baptised Sikh he did cut his hair/drink etc he always said that he carried his guru in his heart.
He was funny and laughed and made us all so happy.
My aunt his sister has been to see a spiritualist which I disagree with to make contact with my father. I am of the belief to leave him to rest - to not cause him pain because his soul has passed on- it is no longer with us. I find myself angry at him for leaving my mum. She was devoted to him and really stuck by him particularly when he lost his mother and his drinking got bad.

My pain I know is nothing in comparison to my mother's - is there anything I can do to pray for our family to give us strength- particularly for my mother who has lost the man she loved from the age of 17.

Many thanksxx
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My dear,
Your father left and it was his time. Yes, it was early. But that was his time of departure.

You can be of great support to your Mom. Doing a path is always great. I would suggest every morning and evening taking a Vaak of the Guru and translating it so you can understand....even discuss its meaning with each other.

Then, if you can bring joy into your family, encourage your MOM to take up walking, painting, read books, go to funny movies. Help her laugh and enjoy her life. He pattern of life was revolving around her life with her husband. Now a door is opening to expansion and opportunity. Best way to look at this.

After the pain of seperation comes the seeming emptyness inside and in the home will seem apparant. But this is a time to accept God's will with love and gratitude and look to see how her life can expand and open to new and wonderful experiences. Travel and serve, teach the children punjabi or sports or sewing and knitting. There is so much to do. Things you never had time for in the past can now be pursued.

A shabd for happiness is "Mangala saaj bhai-aa prabh.......". You can find it at SIKHNET homepage on Shabds for printing. This can be recited daily eleven times for the next 3years(1,000 days).


Much love and encouragement to you to live life and share the joy and gratitude of this life and this breath.
SKKK