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Summary of Question:I Really Need Guidance
Category:General Sikhism
Date Posted:Monday, 1/22/2001 8:31 PM MST


I am a grade 15 year old girl, more hopeless than anything..

I don't know if you can help me with my problem, but I have no where else to turn, and I'm very weak at the time, even though I know I should be strong.

I'm having really bad problems at school, as I got into a fight with someone who used to be my good friend. We were fighting on and off for the past few months, and lately it has gotten so much worse. I did something I really shouldn't have done, but for me it was kind of like getting even, because that person had done a lot to me, and said so much that had hurt me. He found out everything, and slowly turned everyone against me. I still have friends, but going to school is so difficult, because I'm afraid of confrontation with that person, as we already got into a yelling argument just today, and he said a lot of rude stuff. All of his friends mock me and even though I did the wrong thing once, he has done things that are way worse to me, and talked about me behind my back even when we were friends.

All my family and good friends tell me to move on and forget it, but it's so hard when so many people are against you, and I know for a fact I never want to have anything to do with this person again.

I made a lot of mistakes, but learned from all of them. My parents wanted me to go to this other school which is known throughout North America as being one of the best, and I got accepted too, but I think I'm going to go there next year, and for the time being I REALLY need help, I'm confused and depressed.

He's telling everyone things about me, and I don't have the energy or time to convince everyone back. And I know for sure that he's not going to forget about it easily, because he never forgives or forgets. I'm afraid of being alone, and just walking down the halls getting stared down by all of grade 10. Even though it isn't that serious, it's affecting me for some strange reason. And the sad thing is, that all these people against me are also Sikh, but just not as religious I guess. I really feel low. I'm lucky to have my family and all, but I have learnt not to ever trust anyone, and I have learnt it the hard way.

I remember always telling my friends when they have problems "Don't worry because God would never do anything to you unless he KNEW you would survive", and "God is always on your side, he never judges, and always welcomes you with open arms".. But for some reason I can't take my own advice

Thank you SO much if you can help me in any way, and God Bless.

Greetings to you in the Name of God the light of every soul and in the Name of Guru, the life of every Sikh.

What a rude awakening you are having! It is an awakening though, so you can thank God and Guru for new awareness.

Just remember "Meeting and separation is the will of God" The flow of emotions and feelings are what have you all messed up.

Here is your Rx (Prescription):

1. When you feel yourself getting afaid or upset, confronted etc.
inhale deeply and slowly, hold your breath while you mentally say "Wahe Guru" 11x. Then slowly............exhale
Do not speak or react to any of these people.......just do this breath.

2. Before you speak to anyone at school say to yourself: "in the name of Guru Ram Das I bless you, bless you, bless you".

3. Every morning and night take a hukam from the Guru and read what the Guru is teaching you. You must read it in English as well as Gurmukhi so you will have full understanding of the Guru's intruction to you.

4. Thank God for this special gift of love from Him. See how the God within you can lift you and guide you and give you new clarity and understanding. Thank God for this.

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