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Summary of Question:	Broken
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 8/21/2007 6:24 AM MDT

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I'm a 21 yr old guy.I love a gal , we are best friends..recently i proposed her but she refused coz she cant forget her ex .i really love her.i wanna marry her..i pray to god daily...so that one day she realises my love and come back to me ...this had happened to me earlier also .

I never get the person i love..i dun know wat god wants from me..i am broken now..cant eat..just wanna cry and cry...

I dont know why god is doing this to me..my other friends who even dont follow their religion properly ,got the person they love.They exploit their galfrnds..I have kept my kesh,try to follow my religion properly..then why is guru ji doing this to me.cant he fulfill my one request ???....i luv her waheguru ji...

plz help
sat sri akal

(REPLY) Sat Nam. You are so deeply hurt and emotionally wounded that you don't see the larger picture of this situation. You think you would be happy with this woman you "love" --- but believe me, you would probably be miserable, because she obviously does not love you, and never will, and you'd spend your life feeling rejected -even if she agreed to marry you! Better to get over it NOW! As for God "doing this to you" -- that's just not the case! You have done this to yourself! We each act and behave and get the results of our actions --- it is the law of karma to be better human beings. The purpose of life is to experience God. God is not some outside "person" who is punishing you! Good grief! If you could just take all that emotion and turn it into devotion -- devotion to God and Guru, you would get over your misery. Unfortunately, men often fall victim to this attachment to a woman, and they spend all their time feeling sorry for themselves. What a waste of time and energy! Each breath you receive is God's gift to you. How about using it to do something to make this a better world for OTHER PEOPLE, instead of focusing on what you need or want? Are you healthy? Do you have good eyesight? All your arms and legs? Enough to eat? I'm sorry if I can't offer you more sympathy, but what good would that do? You need to be strong, not weak and emotional. You are only a victim of your own emotions. Try spending time reading from the Siri Guru Granth Sahib -- or at least read Japjji and Jaap Sahib every day -- so that your vibration, your thoughts are healed and uplifted into reality, and perhaps you will realize that you are a wonderful person who deserves to be happy! (Peace Lagoon is a book that has these banis in English, you can get it from www.a-healing.com ) SP