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Summary of Question:	How To Win Your Parents Back.
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 3/12/2003 4:46 AM MDT

I am 26 year old sikh girl and have been living away from parents for more than 8 years, with my parents blessing. When I first went to university I fell in love with a white man. I didn't want to hurt my parents so I put an end to it, but still thought about him and still really loved him. I really thought I was doing the right thing and respecting my family. Now I am older and wiser and I met him again and we still both love each other and I really feel like he is my spiritual partner. I told my parent some months ago and they are totally against the situation. They want me to end it, but I feel it is the wrong thing for me to do. I went against love once before and that was hard, but right (because I was so young). Its is different now, I really feel like he is right for me, and I still love him. Could this be kishmat?

I won't leave him, but I still love my parents so much. How can I make the situation better. I feel like I'm being torn in two. Please help!!

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Sat Siri Akal.

Darling, it is very difficult when the parents do not agree with your choice for a mate. Sometimes, they do not agree because they are seeing things you cannot see and they do not want to watch you get hurt with the wrong person. Sometimes they do not agree because of prejudice. My recommendation to you is that you try to build a bridge between your parents and this young man. Ask your parents to spend time with him. Arrange activities for all of you to do something together. Give your parents time and space to get to know him. If you are patient and give this time and space, your parents will come to see that you two are right for each other. Trust yourself. If you know this is the right man for you - then it IS the right man for you. But take the time to build the bridges between him and your family so that you can all be one together.

All love,

GPK