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Summary of Question:	Amritdhari Marriages
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 3/23/2004 10:08 AM MDT

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh

I would be grateful if you could answer a query. I know of old married couples, where one partner is not Amritdhari (or does not practice it), and have always believed that this is ok as long as there is no sexual relationship between them.

Am I right in believing this, or is there a deeper meaning, ie why exactly do both in a marriage need to take amrit? And what happens when one person is unwilling to take it?

Thank you

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It really doesn't concern you what another couple does. What matters is what you want in your relationship. Isn't it part of our Sikh lifestyle to be tolerant, compassionate and kind? Yes, both people being Amardhari Sikhs are ideal. Yes, both people being kind, responsible, loving and great parents and good financial providers are ideal as well. But life usually doesn't go the way we plan. That's all a part of the play of life. If your spouse slips from his or her spiritual practice, it just means that you have to be even constant in yours...and treat your spouse with all kindness and inspiration. It does not mean that you become cold, judgmental and withhold sex as a punishment. That would not be spiritual or conscious actions. What's the point to the practice if you just become inflexible, intolerant and fanatical. Spiritual practice gives us the means to remain uplifted in all situations. Everything in life is a test anyway. How we behave is the result of Path. Path is not the end result. Isn't it all for nothing, if when we finish, we are unkind to someone else? Blessings. GTKK