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Summary of Question: | Marriage To A Stranger |
Category: | Love & Marriage |
Date Posted: | Thursday, 2/16/2006 11:38 PM MST |
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Sat Siri Akaal. My condolences. Your husband was untrue to himself and his family by going through with a marriage he had no intention --deep down-- of maintaining. Sadly, this leaves you in a lousy position. You cannot make someone love you. You cannot make someone want you. While you are ready to do your best and come to love him and make a marriage work, he is NOT. My impression is that his problem does not concern you PERSONALLY; perhaps he's not ready or has been (secretly) in love with someone and cannot live a lie with you. He owes you the truth of why he went through with a wedding and not a marriage. Insist on it from him. Stand up for yourself, sister.
If he goes through with a divorce, I recommend you have the papers indicate he entered into the marriage unwillingly and that you are not 'at fault.' I realize you are concerned with your status and your options for marriage afterwards. That's why you must stand up for yourself. That's the only option based on what you have said above. Guru ang sang,
-DKK