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Summary of Question:	Forgiveness
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 8/07/2002 6:35 PM MDT

Actually I had previously put up my question but just wanted to add some more to it. In brief again, I had pre marital sex out of love and that resulting an aborted pregnancy at the age of 19. Now that I am 24 and the person whom I loved and had made love with has long left me and my parents are looking for a match for me to get married. I am regretting a lot as what I did before. I am very scared of marriage. I want to be honest with the person I will get married to but coming from a cultured family (just me uncultured I suppose) I am not sure how my partner will take up this issue. I don't know not what I should do. I always ask for forgiveness from waheguru and ask for peace in my mind. Please guide me..Thank you

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Please forgive yourself for what has happened to you. That was God's will too....as Guru Nanak says in Jap Ji:

"All things come from God and all things go to God....
no power to speak or silence to keep..
no power to beg no power to give
no power to die no power to live
no power to rule or enlighten the mind
no power to awaken my soul to Thee
no power to find the way to be free.
By His own will O Naanak, none can be good or bad
He alone has the power to reveal the way
One thing to remember is: all things come from God and all things go to God"

You were young, you were innocent, forgive yourself!!!!!Let it go. Give your pain back to God and place your pain at the feet of Guru. Be free and move forward to love and be loved. There is nothing to hide, but there is no reason to discuss this either. God forgives us and YOU must forgive yourself and let the past be gone!!!!!!!!

For your peace of mind and self esteem recite the Muhl Mantra for 31 minutes daily....you can do this while walking.....i.e. doing a meditative walk like doing perkarmas around the Golden Temple. This will establish your base and give you a strong foundation of purity. Do this daily for 40 days without break.
IT WILL CLEAR YOUR MIND AND FILL YOUR HEART WITH LOVE.

God bless you, SKKK