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Summary of Question:	Re:Marrying A Divorced Man
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Monday, 6/30/2003 4:57 PM MDT

It is for the 'girl' who is in love with man going through separation. There are two things that I wanted to add -

Firstly, it is common for people to use someone like you to get over the broken relationship, so wait to make any commitment until after the divorce is final and he has healed from it.
Secondly, MUST talk to his ex-wife. If she mentions ‘abuse’; do not take it lightly. I did and went through 5 years of marriage with physical abuse and put up with his controlling behavior Fortunately, by Waheguru’s mehr I got the courage to stand up to him in spite of or should I say ‘because of’ being mother of 3 children. He could see the ‘anger’ as one of the evils in him and controlled it by constant Naam Simran and ‘anger management’ classes. By Waheguru’s grace; now after 13 years of our marriage I do not regret my decision marrying him but wish that I had believed his ex-wife and have had open talk with my husband about it. His anger and this controlling behavior originated from his ex-wife’s having more than brotherly relationship with another man; in early months of their marriage.

Guru Rakha!

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Sat SIri Akaal. Thank you for sharing your experience.
-DKK