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Summary of Question: | Clarification. |
Category: | General Sikhism |
Date Posted: | Saturday, 11/30/2002 4:18 PM MST |
(REPLY) Sat Nam. You already know the main obstacle to this relationship -- but in addition to confusing the children, there is the whole extended family to consider. Also, the mother has a tremendous influence on shaping the beliefs and practices of children, so it's really going to be difficult. Though you have strong feelings now, the fact is that "feelings" are not what make a marriage a success. The longer you wait to tell your parents, the harder it's going to be. And what about the girl's parents? What is their attitude? Young people's emotions are extremely powerful but unfortunately they are not dependable and most often don't last in the long term. There's no easy solution to this, but I think you'd better be honest and as respectfully as possible speak to your parents, trying to make your case, and then see what happens. Meanwhile, pray for what is BEST -- not what you think will make you happy! God knows what we need, and it's not always what we want. Blessings, SP