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Summary of Question:	Reply To Love On Net
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 7/09/2003 11:04 AM MDT

Dear Love on Net,

You have had 2 people reply to your dilemma. I thought I'll reply and give you a personal perspective as I know exactly how you might be feeling. I'm happily married to someone whom I met thru the net so I'm not pessimistic about the whole deal but have some advice. Firstly you cannot afford to be naive in chat. There are all sorts of people out there. Trust me some are downright freaky and it would be wrong of me not to mention that there are genuine people too. I know "falling/being in love" is surreal but you need to be clever about it. You need to look out for yourself...for your feelings. Don't rush into things. Get to know that person properly as friends and leave it at that and see what the future unfolds. If possible meet him at a decent hour in public. Don't be too quick to fall in love or mistake your feelings for love. Chatting via the internet and having that person in real life before your eyes are two different things. You need to be realistic about the situation and not be carried away with this whole deal. Anyone will tell you it's not wrong to love before marriage. Love is a beautiful emotion and has many stages. You will experience this someday and will come to understand what I'm saying now. But please be careful because it would be sad to see you get involved with the wrong person and there are plenty of those out there. Maybe you could open up to him about your doubts and let him reassure you. Maybe he feels the same way! Just be open and honest. If you don't have that strong true feeling for this guy, pray. Prayer is powerful and will show you the way. Leave it all up to Baba. I know he will guide you in the right direction. He did with me and I'm truly blessed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with meeting someone on the net as millions of couples have married either thru chat or matrimonial ads. It's how you do it and I feel you need additional support. Confide in your parents. I hope they'll be understanding. But at the end of the day it's all about you and how you feel for this person. Take your time and get to know yourself/your inner feelings. Even if this doesn't work out, something better is on it's way for you or that you simply are not ready for this at this stage of your life. But don't be narrow-minded in thinking there are no happy couples out there who met thru the chat. There are plenty of us !!

All the best
Disha

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Sat Siri Akaal. Thanks for your reply! Most of us only hear of the bad experiences from net relationships!
Guru ang sang,
-DKK