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Summary of Question: | I Need Urgent Reply Pleaseeeee !!! Desperate Sister |
Category: | Other |
Date Posted: | Tuesday, 12/27/2005 12:06 PM MST |
Please , please please help me. I love my sister very much. I do not want to loose her. She is smart , intelligent, educated, fair, slim. I'm sure she can find someone better. Please tell me what to do. Please give me a paath to do so that they get separated. I will not keep any contact with her is she get married to him. Please help me. My sister is very sensitive, I know my sister very well..she will insist to be with him. Please help me.. I will not forget your help for the rest of my life.
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I appreciate your trust and appreciation in us moderators, but I must emphysize that we are not magicians. We cannot predict what is God's will. We just do our best in answering your questions. It is up to you to create your own destiny and to trust in God and Guru.
When I was in college in the early 60's, I had an Afro-American male friend. When I innocently told my parents, they freaked out and said that they would disown me. Now, that did nothing but make me want to get to know this guy even more. If they had just calmly sat down with me and discussed with me why I like him and the pitfalls and challenges of dating a Black guy at that time of history, it would have been much more effective. I suggest that you do the same with your sister. Talk to her as a friend and as a sister. What does she like about him? Is she serious enough about him to marry him? Has she thought about the challenges of marrying someone of a different faith? Have they discussed these things? What about children, etc. etc. She may be "in-love" but has she/they thought about their relationship and all of the implications in the long run? Maybe they have. Maybe it will be a good match. Maybe they just need your support and blessings. Whether they are together or not is not your decision. It is her decision. Help her to look at it calmly and logically...without your judgment and emotions. BE open-hearted and allow her to open up to you. She probably wants to talk to you about this person that she has loved for 5 years. It must be hard that she has had to carry this secret for so long. You don't know what her destiny is. She may not either, but if this situation is dealt with calmly and with consciousness, she can meditate on it and know what is best for her. Let us know what happens. Blessings. GTKK