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Summary of Question:	Am I Becomming Big Headed??
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 2/03/2004 6:37 AM MST

This may sound really trivial to who ever reads this but it is something that really bothers me, as i am afraid of becomming one of those people i cant stand.

Im not the brightest of people, and throughout school was always told i wouldnt do very well. Any way i failed most of my school exams, but with hard work and dedication, i made it to uni and im half way through my final year.

I got good grades last semester and felt so pleased, because i didnt expect to do as well as i did.
Last year me and a class mate went to find out our results and she did so much better than me and was being really smug about it, and it really hurt my feelings because i had worked so hard.

This year the same girl was with me when i got my results and i had done better than she had. I congratulated her and just felt so happy for my self.
But when i got home i had a sence of "HA HA well u made me feel like crap but i proved u wrong didnt i!!!" But thats not the way i am, iv always been around to help people with their studies and never kick people when they're down.

What i wanted to ask is that is the way i felt wrong, and is there anyway to keep my self humble (via shabs etc) because i know there is still along way for me to go to achieve my goal and i have only come this far, due to Waheguruji guideance!
im not a big headed person and i dont want to become one as it has never been a part of my nature!

Im just worried about becommin smug and letting it get to my head and then it interfearin with my education, i may be over reacting but its something iv wanted to ask for about a month now!

I would really appreciate ur advice
Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ke Fateh!

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa ||
Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh ||

Be grateful that you have the ability for self-reflection and keep it up. Don't be too hard on yourself when you see aspects of your behavior that you don't like - strengthen your resolve to not repeat the same behavior in the future.

Lust, anger, greed, pride, and attachment will constantly put up barriers in our lives. When the mind is absorbed in ego and maya, we often act in a petty manner. When the mind is absorbed in the Infinite, we act from Infinity, with love and compassion.

Keep up your self-reflection so that you may continually improve your character, and keep up remembrance of the Naam so that God may keep up your character.
Humbly,
MSSSK