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Summary of Question:	Pls Help Before I Do A Mistake
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Monday, 4/23/2007 8:08 AM MDT

Satsriakal Veer Ji

Please help before I do a biggest mistake in my life. I am married. It’s been 4 years now. I’m 34 and he is 40. The problem is that since I got married, I’ve never enjoyed my sex life at all. My husband never kisses my lips, never hug me. All he does is, do his stuff and sleep. I always end up crying and masturbate. I hate doing that. I know it’s disgusting. I have no choice; otherwise I will not be able to sleep. I do everything for him from head to toe. To satisfy him and keep him happy. He likes it so much. But he never does such thing for me. I’ve talked to my husband many times about it. I told him I need more than that. I even warned him that if he doesn’t change then I might look for other man to satisfy me. He got mad at me. Now I came back to my home town to visit my family. I called my ex-boyfriend and we both have decided to have sex. My ex-boyfriend is also married. I know we can keep each others secret. But at the same time I feel guilty if I have affair with my ex-boyfriend. If can I do not want to betray my husband. I really don’t know if I should proceed. I wonder if god will ever forgive me. Please help me. What am I suppose to do. I know my husband is not going to change. I get jealous when my girlfriends share their sex life with me. I’m not copying my friends but it is my DESIRE. I want it. Sometimes I prefer to masturbate than having sex with my husband. Because when I masturbate I reach the organism and feel good. Please help…
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Dear one,
You will regret doing anything outside of your marriage. You have a high nature and must solve this situation with grace.

Please go in to counseling with some one who you can relax and talk about your problems. I would also recommend that you get some books for your husband to educate him on how to satisfy your wife sexually, and leave them lying around for him to discover.
I believe that he is too shy to ask for help, and would be better guided by him thinking he is discovering the info on his own.
Blessings,
skkk