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Summary of Question:	Trying To Forgive And Forget But Can't
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Monday, 1/24/2005 12:57 PM MST

i have a strange problem ,i have been married for 6 years to a caring man and since then have been verbally and physically abused by my sisrers in law and mother in law in US.recently i went to india and there my father in law hit me and insulted my family for nothing.believe in spite of everything all abuses i have not said one bad word to any of them,i did my best and treated them all so respectfully.since last 6 months i moved to canada with my husband due to his job.still my in laws keep on calling to abuse me over the phone and if i want to take out my feelings to my husband he does not like it.i try to ignore wat happened but it keeps cominng back eveytime they call.i want to know is it so sinful not to be able to get rid of my grudges,it disturbs me a lot.please help me

(REPLY) Sat Nam. This sounds like a terrible situation, but at least you are not living with these people. One thing you can definitely do, and that is, don't talk on the phone with those who abuse you. There must be something in their minds that makes them cruel to you, but I see no reason why you should have to listen to it. Hang up the phone if they call and he's not there. You probably won't get anywhere by trying to get your husband to support your feelings, so just don't say anything to him about all this, and just stay away from these inlaws. Meanwhile, pray for the ability to forgive them. You have been hurt, and the only way to get over that is with Guru's grace; so read your banis, and take your troubles to the Guru and ask for help. In your own life, make sure that you are kind and compassionate to everyone around you, for you have experienced the opposite, and you want to make sure that you are never the person being unkind! May God and Guru bless you with patience and wisdom. SP