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Summary of Question:	Why? - (Continued)
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Monday, 6/06/2005 3:57 AM MDT

Firstly I would like to thank you for your reply.

With regards to your response I sensed some sort of abruptness. I didn’t really need anyone to make me feel any worse than I already do. I did not ‘create’ the situation I am in. No one in their right mind would want to put then through pain and getting hurt. Yes I could’ve handled the situation better, but there is absolutely no way I actually made this happen. So every time I’ve been hurt you are implying that I created the situation, I think not. I suffered terrible abuse as a child, did I create that situation? I tried to help someone out with money, who ended up putting me in a bad financial situation, did I create that situation. This is not a science lesson where we can ‘create’ situations. Situations are created by a mean which I do not know of, it’s how ‘we handle’ the situation that is controlled by us. Admittedly I am not very good at handling situations were matters of the heart are concerned. Is that my fault? I have been through a lot of painful situations and each time thought, it’s OK God is making sure I don’t forget him.

You are lucky as you are close enough to god not experience pain. A lot of people out there aren’t so lucky. Even though people like me have tried and tried we have not succeeded. Your comment to this would be something like ‘try harder’. Just like everyone has a pain threshold and can only take so much pain, some more than others. The same principle applies to trying to forget pain and try and get close to god. Sometimes it just doesn’t happen, so will god carry on punishing these people? Should god not realise that these have done there best? Surely that has to count for something.

I will get over this eventually, I always do. Deep down in my heart the question still remains, IF god cares then why does he let people hurt people. IF he is within us then why do people feel so much pain?

I do not expect people who haven’t been hurt to understand what it’s like feeling like this. You reply seem to be some what ‘tunnel vision’, i.e. just directed at one thing. I take it you don’t live by the philosophy that there are always two sides to a coin. Last but not least I do not think of myself as ‘poor me’. As previously stated people go through worse. I was referring to my personal experience, ‘I’ personally have, had enough of being hurt, it seems to be making me more bitter. Which is something I don’t want. I don’t want to hurt anyone or get hurt. What I want is to feel content, how I will feel content, I do not know. And if I feel content one day but not through being close to god, is that going to make me a bad person???

Thank you once again.

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People who have been hurt and who have climbed out would answer you exactly as I have. I know, I've been there. Reread my response. If you don't want to take responsibility for your life, there is nothing anyone can do for you. We create our reality. What happens in our life happens. How we respond to it, we have control over. It is your choice. Your words are the words of a victim. As long as you consider your self as a victim, healing can't happen. Guru will help you IF you allow it. Blessings. GTKK