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Summary of Question:	Volence
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Saturday, 7/19/2003 3:25 PM MDT

hi, im a 17yr old student: i attended the schools annual summer ball a few weeks ago. my problem is that after the summer ball i chose to go to a bar/club with my friends. i didnt drink alcohol or smoke anything, because thats not me. i enjoyed my self a lot, as i was with my closest friends, some of which have left school for good now. I had rang my mom that night to tell her that i was going to be late and that we were going somewhere else. being new to this, i had no idea wher we were going. she gave me permission, and i assured her i was in good hands. The problem is, that my older brother whos 23, has found out where i was. he said i had lied to him. but he doesnt live with me and my parents, and i hadnt seen or heard from him for months prior to this event. i tried to keep contact but he wasnt bothered. he rang me up to tel m i wasa'slut' and called me every name under the sun. he accused me of all sorts, none of which were true. he threatened my life, and said he was coming round to sort me out. he didnt. but a few days later, he came over to my parents house and confronted me. he pushed me about and got violent, he squared up to my mom and me, and then eventualy, i tried to throw him out of the house. he broke back in and kicked me full force ( he used to do kickboxing). now am really cnfused. he hasnt apologised for the false accusations or the injury i have incurred to my leg: i am now limping. my mom attempted to call the police, uti said no, because he already has a criminal record. my main concerns are that he drinks a lot and smokes cannibis. im so confused, as we used to be so close. there was a point a few years ago whe i thought he didnt care, but does this incident show this? i dont know aht to think or say. he has on many occasions hurt my mom too.

what do i do or say? i used to do path, but lately ive lost the faith and dont see a point, what can i do?

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You are probably not going to like my answer, but I am going to give it to you straight and truthfully. Your brother is not acting like a loving brother and son. He is dangerous. If he were anyone else, would you allow it? Don't get caught up in the fact that he is blood related. The fact is, he is dangerous to you and your Mom. Go to the police, get a restraining order that he cannot come to your home. Report him. You will be doing him and your family a favor. He needs help. As long as you allow him to get violent, he will. He needs to straighten his life around. Perhaps he needs to spend a few nights in jail or at a rehab center to do so. Your responsibility is to the safety to yourself and your mother. How would you feel if he did permant harm to you or your Mom? You'd never forgive yourself that you didn't act sooner. Don't wait, do it today. Don't stop your path. God and Guru work in strange ways. This is His play as well. Good Luck. GTKK