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Summary of Question:	Disastrous Addiction
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Saturday, 1/20/2001 6:06 AM MST

Fateh Ji

I have a serious problem.

This problem is seriously disastrous for me physically, mentally, spiritually, sexually, and emotionally.

I'm at the point now where I have to motivate myself all day - not to do this at night.

I've successfully been able to hide it from all of my family and friends in Hanover and the surrounding area.

However I'm destroying my self by succombing to this awful habit and I seriously don't know what to do.

You mentioned that a habit can be made or broken in 40 days.

But what do I do if I can't even get through Day 1 ?

I'm really confused - and almost in tears.

This is jeopardizing my manhood, fatherhood potential when I grow up. I'm almost sexually abusing myself and ruining my psychological stability.

I don't know where to go and what to do - all I need is a prayer... a method... a solution that I can use to keep myself away daily.

Is there any advice you can give me?

Fateh Ji
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Reply:
********************************************************************************Greetings to you in the Name of God the light of every soul and in the Name of Guru the life of every Sikh.

First of all....take a big deep breath and hold that breath in for 60 seconds(one minute). Do this a few times until you feel yourself calm down. You can act clearly once you stop your emotional reaction. Breathe!

You have reconized your problem and stated your intention. Great! This is the first step in changing your behavior.

Yes, it does take 40 days to make learn a new habit or break an old habit. I would suggest that you plan to understand and practice the following for the next 90 days.

Always start your process or stop the flow of your emotionality by holding your breath for one minute.

You can also do this as a daily meditation: Sit on the floor(on carpet or soft surface)Hands on your knees, elbows locked straight. Inhale and hold your breath as you: squeeze your back teeth together while you press your tongue onto the roof of your mouth. Also, flex your spine forward and back as you hold your breath(Just flex gently as through there is a string pulling your naval formard and then backward) You must be sitting on your knees and heels on the floor. You hold the breath for one minute. Then release the breath, relax for a moment and begin again. Do this for 3-11 minutes.

Evaluate that there are triggers or cues in your environment that creates in you the desire to masturbate (such as visual stimulation). Then, try to avoid that stimulation, or change your understanding of it. For example, if there is a girl whose presence stimulates you, start to pray for her well being as a sister, mother, daughter, etc. to relate to her consciousness rather than her body. If you are looking at pornography or sexually stimulating pictures, remove them from your environment and/or avoid them. Replace them with other literature that is not sexually stimulating to you.

The desire to masturbate occurs when the pituitary gland (in your forehead) tells the prostate gland (between your legs) to secrete. The pituitary is connected to the third eye, which is the center imagination and inner vision. Often, visual sexual fantasies will be seen at the third eye. Place the sound Satnam at your third eye by projecting Sat when you inhale, and Naam when you exhale. Do this as often as you remember.

Second, you must learn to raise your energy from the second chakra (sexual center). If you squat on the toilet in order to urinate, you can stop the urine flow 5-6 times by squeezing the sphincter muscle. Practice squeezing this muscle every time you urinate. Squeezing this muscle pulls the energy out of your penis and into your spine.

The yogic technique for raising your sexual energy to higher centers is called mul bhand (root lock). This involves squeezing the muscles of your rectum, sex organ (the sphincter muscle), and navel point. Try this process..........
Jog or run in place for 10-20 minutes. Make yourself sweat with exertion.
Now practice Sat Kriya:
Sit on your heels (put a cushion underneath you if necessary). Raise your arms over your head and stretch them straight up with the palms together. Your arms are hugging your ears. Lock your thumbs and interlace the fingers if needed to keep the palms together. Close your eyes and look up towards the top of your head. Inhale deeply and exhale fully several times. Then inhale and say 'Sut' (rhymes with but) while squeezing the rectum, squeezing the sphincter muscle, and then pulling in your navel. Then say 'Naam' and relax all the muscles. This should be rhythmic and you should be doing one 'Sut Naam' for every 10 seconds.

Practice this for 11 minutes to start and work up to 31 minutes for 40-90 days. In 90 days, you can learn to control your energy if not before.

Masturbation is a process of self-stimulation to the point of ejaculation. Semen is transmuted into ojas, which is the fluid of your spinal column. Ojas lubricates the spine allowing your energy to rise to the higher centers of your body. It takes eighty drops of blood to make one drop of semen, so this is a substantial loss of your energy.

Certain foods are sexually stimulating, such as garlic, mangoes, and pistachios. You might avoid foods that make you feel stimulated.

Bottom line is.....you can do it. This is a mind thing. Give yourself the chance to win over your mind. The one minute breath explained here is very powerful. Remember that your purpose as a human being is to live throughtfully and consciously. Animals react and live reflexively. Humans have the power of God consciousness. This "addiction" is your opportunity to learn mastery. Be grateful for this experiance and opportunity. It will change. You can do it. So, just start!

Keep up and you will be kept up! God bless you with victory. May the power of your one pointedness be turned around to be giving your life balance and happiness.
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