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Summary of Question:	Re: Greedy Husband
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 1/22/2003 12:40 PM MST

I hope she gets this before she takes any steps.Follow what was told to you by the experts but make sure when you talk the baby is with your parentsSeems to me that he is waiting for the baby to get old enough that he can take to India with him.I am not trying to scare her but I have heard a lot of horror stories.Taking chances is not smart.Personally, I feel that she should just not talk but it is not going to work (if it did not work with her parents telling him already.Doesn't seem like he loves her, he seems to love America and her slavery). I wish she would have taken this step before bringing a child in this world but the law in this country is better than America, and he might try to take her to America (both the child and her) and then try something where Indian law does not support the woman (I know a friend of mines daughter who went through this).In India if the man divorces the woman then only he supports (which he will not, he has a readymade slave) but if the woman divorces the man then she gets no child support or so and she acannot leave the country.Think about what the child is going to go through socially (forget about what she will since her parents are abroad).Sorry dear,you have all screwedup but the best way is to not look back and make a decision that is good for your child.This way when you divorce him - if he wants to stay here he will have to work and pay child support and if he does not then it is his problem (to bond with the child) and not yours.You seem to have a good job and your parents are here you do not really need his petty money.Set up a good example for your daughter so she does not go through this.Children learn not from what you say but what they see and she might think catering to a husband (who maybe a LOOSER) is the ideal thing as her mom did it.NO! NO! please talk it over with your parents and think deep, very deep before taking a step but do not waste anymore time.It is not going to get any better.

My oldest daughter had married a looser but thank God with my constant counselling her about what her dad does and what he does she got out before bringing a life in.I hope I knew you earlier I could have tried to help.But it is never too late.If you want to talk to me please ask for my email address from gtkhalsa. My prayers are with you.I am very feminist when it comes to this kind of stuff and my stomach churns.Keep us posted what happened and ask more questions regarding this if need be.You have experts like gtkhalsa who can direct you too.