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Summary of Question:	Love... Marriage Etc..
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 8/27/2002 8:08 AM MDT

It is a beautiful site, Keep it up.

I am very hurt, but dont know why.

I have a sister younger then me, who is going to getting married soon, she was in love with a hindu guy( we are hindus) and all worked out for her, I on the other side am in love but he is sikh, it is fine by me but there are alot of dramas at home becoz of the same, he had come home and a lot was said to him, she( my sister also called me names and him too), all I wanted was to be blessed, now time has passed by and they have accepted him, but he doesnt come home, he has never stepped back at home.We do meet each other and everyone knows about it too both sides we are in love and do intend to get married but all that we want is to be blessed.

It now that even sometimes when we are conversing with my sister she would pass very sacastic remarks and it would really hurt , but I dont know what to say.
I did not want to tell my parents about him, until his side had not agreed, but as I said he was forced to come and see my parents, at that point in time his parents had agreed but mine not, now the situation has reversed, his have not agreed and mine have.

She tells me I am jealous coz she is etting married and I am not, GOD know for a fact that I am not jealous about her, but she could kill with words.

I did not want things to turn out like this, and too make things worse, my sister keeps on taunting me, I have to go thru all the nonsense every single day.
Isnt there anything I can do to avoid being hurt by my own siblings.
They are sometimes unbearable.
The only support I have is my love nad the strenght of babaji.

yah I know too many issues , but sorry, I am tired with life some how
I am doing my japji, every morning to help.


REPLY:

Love is a very interesting thing. Loving a person and a faith is a very great thing. Becasue people are insecure (siblings too) they can be very hurtful. Take heart. Trust in your heart and do not listen to other people.

So when your sister taunts you... bless her.
focus on yourself and your life and the life you can make with your Love. If you have agreed to marry him and he has agreed to marry you then all things will be okay. After you marry remember you will become part of a new home and focus on building your future.Talk to him ( to also forgive) and his family honestly and tell them of your love of him and them. They will welcome you.

Do your banis and be strong....think of this way.. you already have proven that you can go thrugh a tough time together( you and your love) ...dont get angry at your sister instead forgive her as she may not understand.

Bring the guru into your heart and goodluck.

SSM