Previous

Next

Ask a Question

Summary of Question:	Confused
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 7/11/2001 1:50 PM MDT

sir i am 19 years old girl fom india and i am kesh dhari

my problem is that i am in love with a hindu boy since last 6 years but he doenot reciprocate the feeling .but i always have him in my mind whenever i pray to Waheguru i asl for his well being and ask Waheguru to make him my life partner and melt his heart so that even he woluld love me .that guy knows about me and my feelings but he s career minded and says that he may not cross the limits of his own religion,also what i feel is that he doenot like me is bcos i am not beautiful.what should i do ? to make him be my life partner



i hate when the hair gets inside my mouth sir if i ever kiss a man who has beard how do i i would feel like vomitting.so i do not wish to marry a sikh.

but sir my second prob on the second hand is that i wish to get over it forget him follow the path of sikhi marry some sikh and work hard for my high aims ?

i am totally confused please answer all my questions


********
REPLY
********

Sat Sri Akal,

It is hard to comprehend that you fell in love with a boy at the tender age of 13. Teenagers are very emotional and have some very good days and some very bad days. Teenagers also tend to confuse feelings of fondness for love. If you are truly in love with him, then you should also understand that you have to respect his wishes too. If he is similar to your age, then he just may not be ready to be in love with anyone. If he wants to focus on his career then maybe he's just trying to focus on establishing himself before he has to start caring for someone. If you are really in love with, you will understand his point of view.
Being married is a two-way street, there has to be love and understanding between the man and the woman, not just one of them.

About your second question, you have to figure out what is more important to you. Do you care more about being able to kiss somebody or being a true Sikh. Do you want to be caught in maya, or do you want to free yourself and develop a deeper understanding of life? Perhaps after you start meditating and paathing and realizing what it means to be a Sikh you will start to understand that such a superficial thing as kissing has nothing to do with real love.

Gur Fateh,
HSD

(Find me on AOL Instant Message using email: [email protected])