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Summary of Question:	A Real Sikh
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 2/04/2003 12:18 PM MST

Sat Naam..I was first introduced to Sikhism by my x husband. Who was born and raised Sikh (born American but raised Mostly in India.) I myself was brought up and raised Catholic..by my parents love and grace my heart and soul was always allowed to be open and loving to all people and religions which I believe attracted me to my xhusband. While we were married I choose to sit in Yogi Ji's classes and enjoyed bhangara class,gurdwara,bithdays, marriages,reading from Guru etc...Today I do not participate in the sikh community as much as I used to (actually not at all) but instead constantly sit on sikhnet and other various 3ho sites and indugle in all the beautiful information available to me.

I have recently committed myself to eat a vegetarian diet, no alcohol or drugs...I dont cut my hair and wear it up and wrapped in various colors of scarves etc...I wear a Kara...and read the Gurus Grace on Sikhnet daily...In my heart I feel love and calling to the Life of the Khalsa..Wahe Guru..I have obtained my spiritual name from Yogi Ji and those close to me respect my life and longing to live as a Sikh --Health Happy and Holy..But find that those in the community do not find me to be a REAL SIKH
because I obtained my name via-mail instead of face to face from Yogi Ji and I dont currently participate in gurdwara..or taken Armit...in my soul I believe I am and follow to the best of my knowledge the path of the Khalsa..I feel that I give my 10% to the people I see on the streets in need of food or money does that count? I get up at Amrit Vela and do my meditation and Yoga in my home is that ok? I suppose because I was not born into Sikhism I still have so many questions about weather I am following the right path...and living as a Sikh as I understand the Guru to guide me...I understand that to be the way of a True Sikh am I incorrect? I currently live with a Woman and have a beautiful relationship with her..she does not participate in my faith but gives love and thanks for the commitments that I take...Is Sikhism against...(gay/lesbian) relations? I havent found information on the topic or way of life...and wonder if the community would have open arms to me if the knew about my new life..with my wife instead of my xhusband.I know its alot of information but some human guidance would be helpful to me....Gracias....Sat Naam..

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Sat Nam, Kulwant Kaur Ji - The answer to your question is within your own heart. The opinions of others do not matter. Some of the truest Sikhs I know do not wear a turban or look like Sikhs. Your identity is between you and your Guru. Only that. If you deepen your relationship to your Guru and be completely honest with yourself, there is no problem. All the right actions will come to you spontaneously. There is no Sikh-"ism." There is only living as a Sikh - and that means that the Guru is your touchstone and the center of your life - in a very real and intimate way. Guru places no judgements on relationships. Love is love. It has no end. Be true to yourself and serve everyone.

All love, .....G