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| Summary of Question: | Gursikhi And Love??? |
| Category: | Love & Marriage |
| Date Posted: | Wednesday, 10/31/2007 11:36 PM EDT |
im very disturbed actually im a sikh gurl , 20 yrs old and i love a person (who was ma senior in school) and he loves me too. we belong to jatt sikh relegion and both r fully dedicated to career and parent's resPect. our parents were earlier against this relation when they figured out (whn we were in school--WE R IN RELATION SINCE PAST 5 YRS BUT WE DINT CONTACTED EACH OTHER WHEN OUR PARENTS FIGURED OUT -WHEN WE WERE IN SCHOOL....we r in touch after 4 yrs and we were waiting for eachother ..he founded ma contact to ask me if i still love him) and now when we r again in touch, they r unaware and at times this disturbs me very much coz i dont want to cheat on them. the guy is goin to talk to his family abt us so tht they talk to mine for our marrige but only after he is on his own ..like after compling his masters (he is 21, mechenical eng in india right now). but i really dont want to cheat my parents nor i want to destroy their izzat as i understand tht gurlz hold house's reputaion ...at the same time i love him too much and at the same time im into gursikhi which tells us to sacrifice our happiness for others. i m ready to sacrifice my love for my parents happiness and he also supports me in tht ...as he also thinks tht we wont be able to ever stay happy by hurting our parents. but the thing tht bothers me is tht shud i continue talking to him (we only talk on computer or phone as i live in canada and he is india) and we only talk abt studies and career ..no immature stuff...but im confused if im doing right or not? shud i continue talking to him till he talks and our parents react(they might and might not agree ) being a sikh is it ok to love someone before marrige? i really cannot think of marrying anyone else then him and at the same time i wonder if GURU ji is with me and im not commiting a sinn??????please guide should i continue talking to him ? or leave evrything on time and god?? will it be fare for him if i say him tht i dont want to talk to him till our parents dont give us the consent??? i dont want to hurt anyone...please help.PLEASE REPLY ASAP...........IM VERY MUCH PUZZELED JUSS WANNA END MA LIFE WHEN I SEE MY PARENTS (HOW MUCH THEY LOVE ME AND WT I AM DOING---THOUGH IM NOT GOIN OUT, DATING, DRINKING , DRUGGING, OR TALKING ABT VULGUR THINGS WITH MY BOYFRIEND (I HATE SAYING HIM MY B.F. I LOVE HIM HE IS JUSS LIKE MY HUSBAND TO ME ---IN THE PURITY OF OUR RELATION THOUGH WE R NOT MARRIED) ) PLEASE HELP ........PLEASE
waheguru sabh nu sidhe raah te paave te aapni kirpa rakhe
thnx
...sikh gurl
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Dear one,
Get engaged and start talking about your marriage date. Talk about that.
SKKK
Gursikhi And Love??? (10/31/2007)