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Summary of Question:	I Need Some Advise
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Monday, 4/28/2003 9:37 PM MDT

sat shri akal

i really need your advice. I been in a relationship with this guy for last 3 years. And we really love each other and we decided to get marry (not very soon).
the advise that i need is that, from last couple of weeks he is not feeling well.He told me that he can't control himself anymore(sexually). Since, i grew up listening to that sex before wedding is wrong. and u r a sinner if u do such a thing. I been trying to help him in anyway i can. I told him to do pray everyday and go to gym everyday this way his mind will go into another direction.And he is doing it but nothing seems to work.He told me that I think about the society too much that's why i'm refusing to do that.and he thinks that i don't understand him and his love and stuff. But the thing is i do understand him I know its hard for him to control it. but i don't understand what to do. I love him so much (and he does too). Please suggest me what to do, i'm very confuse. If I look at him, he is the world to me and then on other hand i'm afraid that if i go ahead and do it, people will call our true love a lust.
please give me some advise
thank you.

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Don't be foolish and stupid. If he loves you, he will wait. What is keeping you from getting married sooner? Get married. You have your whole lives ahead of you. If you act foolishly now, it will haunt you for the rest of your marriage. Don't worry about what anyone else says. Worry about what this will do to your relationship. If it means so much to him, then get married. If you break this commitment to your grace, it is only the beginning. Stand strong to who you are and to your commit to yourself. GTKK