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Summary of Question:	Re: Married But Alone - Confusion
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 10/05/2004 9:20 AM MDT

The ‘tuks’ were quoted from Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji since Guru not only shows us path to meet the husband lord i.e. Waheguru but also guides us to live our daily life as human beings. With His kirpa, when we are able to live our life like a gurmukh, it becomes easy to live with difficult people. It is our ‘karma’ (past & present) that put us in situations where we have to deal with ‘unreasonable’ people.

‘Married but alone’ only knows what happened between her & her mother-in-law. Is there anything she could ignore? Is there anything she can forget & forgive? Can she take a different approach when something like this happens in future & keep the ‘communication’ open? It is her marriage, her love & her life, only she can decide whether it is worth saving and worth cherishing.

She can only decide whether her husband is abusive or just mad & frustrated over the two women, he loves the most. He may not have guts to confront his mother; but ‘married but alone’ knew that; since it is their ‘love marriage’. She got into this marriage with wide open eyes. Her husband obviously thinks he has more ‘right’ on her to ask her ‘to behave’. If his behavior is like ‘putting conditions’ on their love, she should communicate her feelings to him & let him know what is acceptable or not acceptable to her. She should not expect a (Punjabi) son to leave his widow mother, though he may choose to suffer through this for the rest of his life. Like I mentioned before ‘a wife knows her husband like no other woman in this world’, she has the power to change the situation. Pray & seek His guidance ‘how to’.

It is easy to ‘break’ than make lasting relations. May Waheguru bless her with ‘sumatt’ to make her home ‘paradise’!!