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Summary of Question:	We Are Just Friends Even After Marriage
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Friday, 6/17/2005 4:16 AM MDT

VJKK VJKF

I am an amrithdhari women married to an amrithdhari man for about a year, we were introduced to each other by people in the sangath and we got married. The problem is that although i feel that we do love each other, we have had sex only a handfull of times and i don't feel attracted to him although he is good looking etc. We get along etc and i feel he is more like a friend. How important is the physical side of things? and in the long run i hope i don't become more and more resentful.

VJKK VJKF

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A loving, sexual relationship is very important in a marriage. Are you affectionate in any other ways? This is also important. I would suggest that you and/or you and your husband get some kind of counseling to work this out. Yes, resentment on both of your parts can happen. Perhaps one or both of you have intimacy challenges or something. It is better to deal with it now. Don't wait until the resentment and anger destroys your marriage. Get help now. Blessings. GTKK