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Summary of Question:	Re:Answer To People Who Criticized My Love
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Monday, 8/01/2005 1:25 PM MDT

Dear Ms Soniaji,

I read your posts and the replies too and figured out that you are at a critical juncture in your life. I respect your love for the person who happens to be a Muslim. Let me state my own very personal experience with you regarding the same situation please spare some time and read it.

We are a Gursikh family who believe in Sri Guru Granth Sahib jee. Some years back my younger sister fell in love with a Hindu boy while in college and she wanted to marry him. There was turmoil in our family because of her decision, my parents and myself reasoned with her for almost 2 years and failed. Everyday was a living hell for our family because she was the most loved person in our house and this decision of hers came as a betrayal of our trust in her and a rude shock. She had similar arguments that "I WILL REMAIN A SIKH ALL MY LIFE" which the guy also maintained always. She said a similar thing "NA KOI HINDU NA KOI MUSALMAAN" also "MANAS KI JAAT SAB EK HAI....PEHCHANBO". To this our response was dont use few lines from our holy guru to suit your needs, have you ever read the whole Guru Granth Sahib to understand it fully? but she never understood us, she never looked at the bigger picture. For her, her life was that guy whom she loved more than us it seemed. We met the guy and he made tall claims that all religions lead to one god and Im a very open minded person etc etc. Eventually she went under serious depression and we gave in. She married that guy and had a baby boy. Now the problems started, she felt that since my husband is so open minded, respects my religion, why not raise my kid as a Sikh? Believe me there was no pressure from us over this issue but this was her own thought(maybe guilty feeling?) I dont know...but the guy plainly refused, he said that he was a hindu and his kid will remain a hindu. They had fights, arguments and eventually my sister gave in....she is deeply hurt at her decision now and tries very hard to comeback in our family but thats not working out because of different beliefs we and they share. My kid is a SIkh and his cousin cannot be a hindu...how can people of 2 different religions be brothers? we have different faiths, practices, beliefs...she has gone far away from us. The distance kept on increasing on its own because we as a family could never connect with the guy and his family...my sister repents her mistake, she cannot believe that this is the guy who made tall claims abt religions, gods, sikhism is just another narrow minded person. I have lost my little sister for ever....please dont do the same with your family. Love is your parents, your brothers, sisters...please find love in Sri Guru Grath Sahib which is a big big ocean. For my sister the sikh legacy ended with herself because I dont think her kid will ever even know Guru Nanaks words "Na koi hindu na koi musalmaan". The onus to grow our religion is on us and not on someone else. Im 100% sure even if you manage to remain a Sikh, your kids will be muslims...donsent ur legacy end there? Think over it sister because love knows no bounds and act before its too late. If your to-be husband is ready to tie a dastaar on your Son's head, not circumsize him....I would salute him.

Thanks
Amardeep