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Summary of Question:	Ego
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Sunday, 9/24/2006 9:32 AM MDT

Waheguru ji Ka Khalsa

Sri Waheguruji Ki Fateh
I am a 25 year old woman. I am a very egoistic person or rather say thAt I experience ego many times and act under it. By Guru's grace I am following the rehit but am not 100% into it.I am not getting up at amrit wela. Also from the past three years I have prominent hair growth on my chin. these hairs are very few say 4-5 in no and so I take them away with the help of a plucker as they really appear prominent on face. this somewhere interferes with the conscience but the appeal to take them away is stronger. What should I do in this regard?
also from the past two months i am having very tensed relations with my family.I have really developed feelings of aversion towards them.there are many problems most of them created due to my own weakenesses.I have lost the trust in my family. I find by guru's grace that only Akal purkh is having patience with me. I faced many problems in my life for which I could have been prepared by my family but they instead of guiding me with love and patience were over-strict with me. first i had this feelings inside me which had become like psychosis and would come out whenever i would get into detail talks with my closed friends. But now this has turned into severe anger and I no longer fear to reveal these feelings to my family.I am tired of all this whining but living with my family never really helps me take all of this out my memory. all this has become a deterrent to my progress in life . I still do not have any career.at the same time many times i dont find them bad but just expect if they would have been more sensitive towards me then things would have been different. My anger and frustration takes over my mind and so there is no peace in house.
I wish to make my life meaningful like you all SIKHS there. REALLY. My family is not a rehitdahri, only my mother,me,UNCLE and cousin.although they all follow sikhi but consume meat and alcohol. kindly help and guide me.
you all are indeed a BLESSING. THANKS FOR SPREADING OUT GURU'S GRACE TO WE ALL.
WAHEGURUJI KA KHALSA
SRI WAHEGURU JI KI FATEH.

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IT is very difficult to answer your questions without talking more with you...but generally...you need to take responsibility for your own life. Don't blame your family or anyone for your challenges. Explore what career you want, get education, training or whatever you need to go for it. Move out of your parents' home. Move into a community where you can live with people of like mind and lifestyle...like other Sikhs who don't eat meat or drink alcohol. The point here is that you can decide your own life and then act on it. Don't be a victim of the old ways. Live your life and be happy. GTKK