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Summary of Question:	I M Waiting For Reply To My Querry
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Monday, 10/17/2005 1:27 AM MDT

Dear Sir,

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fateh,

Few days back I asked you a question about my problem and got your reply but then I again wrote to you but till today I have not received any reply. I reminded you earlier also and request you once again to please pay attention to my email. For your convenience I am attaching the whole communication below. Awaiting your early reply.

Best Regards,

Jagjit Kaur
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Thanks for your reply. I agree with you that being a sikh is a priviledge and I myself love it but I am not leaving that priviledge. I mentioned in my earlier mail also that our religion is because of the principles that we follow not with whom we interact or live (I hope u agree with this statement). I also read the material already posted on the website regarding this issue and I am raising this question after reading that. Yes I do path but I never found any word saying that only sikhi is good and other religions are bad. Bani always say that we are here to remember god. I even wear kachhera and I will continue this ever after marriage. Marriage will not affect my religion (principles that I follow) in any way, I will be the same fellow. There will be no change in my relation with my Guru, then what is the problem? You also said that it is not a matter of conversion, then please let me know where is the problem? I do not think that keeping a relation of husband wife with a hindu will change my religion. No this is not Guru Gobind Singh Ji's teaching. He was very very modern in his thinking. Guru Nanak Ji spent his life with Bala and Mardana which is a unity of three religion and Bani said "NIGURE KA HAI NAU BURA" for the people who have not adopted any religion but hindus, muslims or anybody following any religion cannot be NIGURA. His guru is his religion. That Brahmin called “Jetha Ji” nigura because then he was not having any guru. Just like you I have lots to write and I can go on and on but here I would like to mention only that we are "BANDA" and our MAIN purpose is to do "BANDAGI" so what is the problem in whatever form we do it.. whether hindu sikh or any other religion. WHERE IS THE PROBLEM?

I would like to know your views about this and of every one else who read this.

Sat Sri Akal,

Thanks

Jagjit


MY QUESTION AND YOUR REPLY TO THAT IS ATTACHED BELOW.

Sat Sri Akal,

I am a girl from a sikh family. I wanted to ask you that is it OK if I want to marry a Hindu guy? It will be a love marriage. Do I need to convert to his religion or I can keep my religion and he can keep his own. According to Sikh religion is it necessary to be of the same religion for being life partners? He will follow his religion and I will mine. Will there be any problem if we marry without converting. Because I think religion is a way to search god and religion is because of principles which we follow, and is no base to determine whether a person is good or bad for marriage. Guru granth sahib ji says "avval allah noor upaya kudrat ke sab bande ek
noor te sab jag upjaya kaun bhale ko mande". Please reply to my id only. Please dont post this question on website even if my id is not working.

Thanks and Best Regards,

(REPLY) Sat Nam. Please take some time, and research all the many, many,many questions on this topic that have already been posted on this website.There are so many factors to consider, and if you really read all that has already been stated, you may understand that it's not a matter of "conversion." To me, being a Sikh is a privilege and an opportunity that people have died for, rather than abandon. (Guru Arjan Dev, for instance!) Being a true Sikh is not just a cultural thing, it is a relationship between you and your Guru. Do you ever do any Paath? Oh, well, I could go on and on, but so much is already there for you to read, if you are willing to make the effort. May God bless you and Guru guide you to make wise choices in your life. Everything you do will affect the rest of your life. SP


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There is no reason that a Sikh can not marry a Hindu. Being a Sikh is a relationship between you and the Guru.

However, a marriage of multiple faiths raises some interesting questions. Do you have similar views on how to raise your children for example? Will he respect your beliefs and principles and support your development with them? Will those beliefs and principles be in conflict with his?

This is the life which God provided you. With whom do you wish to share it?