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Summary of Question:	Feeling Of Getting Married
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Monday, 12/15/2003 10:05 AM MST

waheguru ji ka khalsa,waheguru ji ki fatehhh

khalsa ji..i m 24 years old girl...and my problem is that i want to get married..as seeing my friends got married and even one of them is having baby..make me feel like getting married..i asked my parents but didn't get much response from them as i was expecting..i showed them some guyz pics from matrimonial sites..but they didn't take interest cuz they were amritdhari..as me being amritdhari..when i check matrimonials something inside me saying that what i m doing...it's not right..khalsa ji i m 24 and i feel like that i m passing the age of getting married...m i rushing..cuz i want to control this feeling..but when i see my friends happy and having baby..i feel like i m lacking something in my life..which is still worldy .. khalsa ji please tell me m i rushing into this marrige thing..and how should i control this feeling of mine..cuz sometimes i feel that i want to concentrate of the relationship of mine and guru ji...i feel like that i want to be strong in that relationship..and then think of other things..but still this feeling of getting married haunt me..what should i do??

muskeen

waheguru ji ka khalsa,waheguru ji ki fatehhh


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Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa, Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh.

First, it's fine that you feel this way. You are 24 which means you still have a lot of years to find someone. But if it is important to you to get married and have a family, there is nothing wrong with beginnging the process of finding your mate. You can look for your mate and keep your relationship with the Guru growing at the same time. No problem.

So, here is a shabad that is said to help you find your soulmate. The name of the shabad is: Mangal Saaj Bhaiaa. You can listen to it in the SikhNet Gurbani archive and you can also print the shabad sheet at: http://www.sikhnet.com/GurbaniKirtan/tr_1059.html.

A cozy home is the foundation of our Dharma. So as a Sikh woman you have a responsibility to create that cozy home and keep it in the vibration that your home is a place for your husband and children to clear their karma and practice Dharma. Keep up with your meditation and practice being non-attached. Ask the Guru to bring you a mate but be very unattached as to when it happens, how it happens or even what the person looks like. This is a great way to use the longing you have for a husband and children as a way to progress on your path.

Know that everything is already written and it is all in the Will of God. The man who is for you will come to you in God's time by God's hand. You need only focus on your soul and trust that God is taking care of everything for you. If you can deeply feel this and live it - it will make you feel so beautiful - I can't even describe it.

Trust, relax, meditate and let God take care of the rest.

Let us know how it goes.

Many blessings to you.

GPK