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Summary of Question:	Sad Sister
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Sunday, 3/12/2006 5:02 PM MDT

Sat Sri Akal

Firstly I would like to say what a great site this is and keep up the good work. I have a quick question about my sister. Basically she was dating this guy who is older anyway to cut a long story short he dumped her. But the problem is that because they were friends before they decided to maintain the friendship. Of course so although they aren't dating they still see each other as friends. The problem is that she keeps calling him and meeting up with him. Of course everytime she does she feels bad cause she can't let go of him. Why I have no idea. I have told her to just break it all off and then let Wheguru help you but she says that Wheguru doesn't hear her. So I was wondering if there was anything I could do. I can't really bear seeing her so upset and crying all the time. Thanks heaps

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Sat nam. Your advice is spot on target. She is duping herself and thinks deep down that he'll take her back. Which he won't. So right now he's using her, because he still loves the attention. If she wants to live in this kind of pain, it is her choice. You could decide to have a moratorium on talking about him whenever you are with her. It will give her one less chance to focus on a losing proposition. Guru ang sang,
-DK