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Summary of Question:	Will i be punished?
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Saturday, 9/30/2000 5:56 PM MDT

Hi, i went to india and had an arranged engagement, i have started the sponsoring stage. However, i want to get out of it but i am afraid of my parents, so i am going to screw up the immigraiton papers, so he can't come here. Before i got engaged my parents to me to a Sant, to get his blessing/Sagaan first, so will i be punished? The Sant, i do belief in him, but i was always against getting married in india, i can't even speak punjabi, dp i take the plunge, because i have the blessing of the BABA Ji, or do i lie my way out of it???? Also i think i have been havving out of body experienaces i am not even sleeping, but i feel like i can not move my legs and arms or i am falling this happened twice to me. Also i get images of the Baba Ji, when i close my eyes? What do you think? Is this a sign from God, as a warning or something. Also i am Sinning becasue i have a boyfriend in CANADA, but i was scared to tell my parents becasue they belive in caste and he is JAt and i am Ramgarhian. Now look at the big

mess i MAde. HELP, i do not want to shame my parents or humuliate them, my little sister ran away from home, this is one of the reasons why i did this in India, but know i am so scared, how can i live with someone i don't know, how if he makes, me sick, and he does not know about my little sister, running away, what will he think, maybe he is just coming to canada for immigration, help before i breakdown, I hate being indian
HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Relax, baby girl. You spoke to me before. You actually sound much better now.

What is wrong with honesty? Why be so underhanded and manipulating? If you want to try meeting someone in India, why not? Is it decided that you have to marry this person? Perhaps you can go and meet and decide yes or no.

I think that you need to have a very calm and clear talk with your parents to formulate a future that you are comfortable with. You seem uncomfortable with your parents plan. Is there some family member or Giani or teacher that can help you negotiate and plan a future that you and your parents can agree upon?
Ask for help from God and Guru Ram Das. Expect that you get the help you need. It will come.