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Summary of Question:	Family Views On Marrying In Caste
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Friday, 2/18/2005 3:09 PM MST

hiya first of all i just wanna say that i think your doing a great job keep it up!!!!!!!!!

anyways a couple of weeks ago me and my mum & dad all agreed that it was time i got married and both of them and all my massi's say i have to marry a jatt like myself

but i argued that it shouldnt matter if hes a jatt since sikhism doesnt believe i the caste system and if the first panj pyare werent all jatts and were good enough for guru gobind singh ji shouldnt a non-jatt be good enough for me?

am i right to go against my family or am i right to stick by my views???

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Sat Siri Akaal. Your understanding of Sikhi is absolutely on target. Now, that doesn't mean that there isn't a jaat out there who would make a good husband. It DOES mean that you should not have your options limited by caste. This is hardly the Sikh way. Your family is concerned about their reputation, for if you marry outside your caste, the fear is that others will talk and your parent's standing will diminish. So, instead of just saying no way to your parents, start by making them explain to you very clearly and specifically why it is so important that caste be observed here. Good luck! Chant the naam to keep your balance! Guru ang sang,
-DKK