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Summary of Question:	Age
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Saturday, 8/12/2000 9:19 AM MDT

Hi I am a 26 yr old male. I am a virgin, I still have not yet dated a girl. I haven't old anyone about this because if i did then I would be the laughing stock of the century. When I was 18 I told someone I was a virgin and they thought I was weird or something. Even girls from sikh families these days think it is odd for a 26 yr old man to be a virgin. What should I do? Am I pathetic?

Over the years dozens of really goodlooking girls have come onto to me but I have avoided them at all times. Sometimes i wonder why, maybe i didn't have the self confidence or maybe I was too shy or maybe I was religous or maybe a mixture of all three.

I will not go for an arranged marraige so I don't know how long it will take before I get married maybe three or four more years. I am afraid that I will lose my sexual peak. I sit here and think that I should just go got and get a gf and have fun but then I think maybe it's not a good idea since I have come this far then why can't I wait a coupel mroe years. I feel real discouraged when I hear about girls that are only 17 yrs old and come from respectable familes having sex. Why do they do this? Don't they know they will be destroying their future husband?

Am i weird?

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No, you aren't weird. Unusual maybe, but that is a compliment.
Sex intertwines the psyche of the two people. Having multiple sex partners makes it harder to have a steady, meditative mind and makes it harder on your eventual marriage, because it's like having several people in every discussion and every decision.
You are definitely doing the right thing.
And sex is not an olympic sport. Don't worry about your "peak" passing. Marriage is 99.9% about things other than sex.
LSK