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Summary of Question:	Parents Problem
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 3/25/2003 8:18 AM MDT

I read so many question in sikh youth about Love and marriage. but i really need help... our parents doesn't allowed us to married with another cast. like if guy is jatt and girl is different caste u can't married no matter how much you love each other .... but after that u have to end up loosing your love cos of your parents.... when we try to understand them they dont listen... and then they start cry fornt of us....!

could you please help me about this,how do we explain our parents that there is no caste system is Sikhism.... cos my sister she love jatt guy and when she tell my mom that she wants to marry with him... and my mom straight say "NO"... now when we try to explain our mom and dad ... they start yell and they don't even bother to listen...and they cryied and guess what my sister end up lossing this guy...... cos he is Jatt..! now my parents... they eranged her marriage in india.....? but she don't want that.?
i really need help from you .... How do we explain our parents that there us no caste system in Sikhism.....? please respond me back...!
(REPLY) Sat Nam. This is such a common situation, and it is tragic and pathetic that so many of the generation of your parents still cling to cultural traditions that are absolutely AGAINST the Sikh teachings of equality. It is very difficult to find a solution when they are so stuck in their prejudice and fear of social reaction that they will not listen to you. I wish I had the solution, but I don't know of any way to persuade them, because they simply make a big scene and cry and yell. This is irrational, emotional, and unfortunately usually effective, because as good children you don't want to hurt your parents. It is a sad state of affairs, and I hope and pray that with time your generation will make the necessary changes. Guru Nanak was outspoken against caste discrimination, and Guru Gobind Singh definitely was against it. May God bless you and your sister, and give you strength and wisdom to make the right choices. SP