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Summary of Question:Pregnant And Don't Know What To Do
Category:Love & Marriage
Date Posted:Tuesday, 4/27/2010 11:43 AM MDT

I am a 22 year old Sikh girl. Just a few days ago I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. The father of my child is also Sikh, he is my bf. We plan to get married within about 2-3 years. Our parents don't know about us yet though. My parents are against dating and he is also of a different caste which unfortunately they still follow. His parents would be ok with me they wouldn't discrimiate based on caste. Anyway, the problem now is that I am 6 weeks pregnant. He would work with me if I keep the baby but he also knows that it would be such a disgrace to my family for me to be pregnant before marriage. Society would talk so much behind my parents backs because of me and they don't deserve that. They have always done everything for me. On the other hand I don't believe in abortions. I know some people say that the soul enters after 120 days but I don't believe that. I believe that it's there right at conception. The baby is such an innocent being and I feel so bad for even thinking of abortion. It feels immoral to me. My baby even has a heartbeat by know and his/her body is very quickly developing already. I would love to keep my baby but society is so cruel. I don't know what to do. Any thoughts or peronal experiences anyone can share with me will be very helpful. Thanks.


Sat Nam Dear,
It sounds to me that you already made the decision within yourself.
I could tell you that what you already heard that yes, the soul only enters the body on 120th day and before that it is only a physical uninhabited shape that is inside you... but to you it is a lot more real. You have to ask yourself what your intuition tells you.
Shame is a very temporary thing. Even if things were to get difficult in your family everything will eventually change and everyone will still be happy when the baby comes.
A woman is a very strong being and a mother is even stronger. I think you can handle a possibly unpleasant period in your life when you will have to tell your parents and have the marriage arranged sooner than you thought. And who is to say it will be that unpleasant knowing in your heart that your baby, the life you have invited into this world by your and your boyfriend's love is on his or her way?
The good thing is that you don't have to be facing any of this alone. It will be you and your baby's father. It will be a very good experience for you both as well as test of your strength to face both of your families together.



Dear Girl..

We are married for a long time and no baby yet..we are in USA..if you want we can arrange your stay with us and adopt your baby ..only if you and your family is okay with that but please dont abort.get my email from moderator and contact us...It will be a great deed and with Waheguru's grace we will have a baby..thanks and take care

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