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Summary of Question: | Very Confused And Hopeless |
Category: | General Sikhism |
Date Posted: | Tuesday, 11/19/2002 2:53 PM MST |
(REPLY) Sat Nam. It sounds as if you are really giving yourself a bad time. Is anyone at home putting pressure on you to be "perfect"? Nobody is perfect, and if your doing well in general, then I suggest you need to really, really set your mind to accept that fact that God is the Doer -- and if you have done your best, then you have to relax about the results. I know that sounds easier said than done, but you will give yourself ulcers before you're 20 if you don't lighten up. I'm not saying you should neglect your studies, but maybe you need to learn a technique for studying better -- not harder. You will actually do better on tests if you have taken some time during the week to relax and change your focus. Getting out in nature is very soothing - can you go for a walk or a hike somewhere? And what about music? go to a concert, or sing along with a CD -- and especially, spend some quality time with your Guru. Yes, read in English translation the words of the Guru on a regular basis so that you get your life into perspective. You're not missing much of value by not taking time for TV, because there's a lot of junk on it these days, but if these anxiety feelings continue, you might consider speaking with your school counselor. I think it may not be that uncommon. Also, before and during taking a test or during study times, take a few long deep breaths -- really long and really deep (through your nose only) and think SAT on the inhale and NAM on the exhale to calm your mind and help you remember that God is with you at every moment, with every breath. I wish you the best! Blessings, SP