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Summary of Question:	Husband Nanaksar Sikh
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Monday, 6/28/2004 2:29 PM MDT

dear guruke pyare

waheguruji ka khalsa waheguruji ki fateh

i am a lot in distress right now
i need help

i dnt know anyone greater than guruji
and his sikhs

and what i am going through only guru knows
i am a gursikh
amritdhari and so is my husband

i dnt believe in any baba or sant other than guru granth sahibji

and i had made my point very clear before our marriage

but recently i have discovered that he is a devotee of baba ishar singh (nanaksar)
he doesnt want to follow the rehat maryadad of akal takht but of nanaksar

i am very sad
i also found pictures of baba ishar singh in his valet
but i was very sad when i didnt find any picture of guru 's


i need help

i dnt know

i had written tp u earlier also u had suggested a divorce

my family suggests me a divorce

but my heart says that when guruji was present when my anand karaj took place at amrit vela

and he knew that this man is not a gursikh but a nanaksar sikh

why didnt he stop the wedding

i am writing to u because my heart says that gursikh and guru ke pyaare
will respond

i dnt know hwre to go what to do
because i dnt know anyone there than the Guru

please help me

guru fateh

please view this

www.nanaksaronline.com/baba4.htm

the way they have written about him is as if they are talking about the gurus

please stop this

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reply
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Sat Siri Akaal. The worst thing you must be feeling is a sense of betrayal. I believe you should confront your husband on this, for the sake of making clear your distress. We cannot alleviate it for you online.
That said, he feels he needs a "Sant" in his life, for whatever reason. You cannot force him to stop, there is a karma involved, no doubt about it.
You yourself have said that you have utmost faith in guru and sangat. So pray. Chant the naam for yourself daily, if you can do so with sangat. Keep your practice as a Sikh. Read Sukhmani daily to calm your mind.
If you find it unbearable to live with this betrayal, then separation or divorce might be appropriate. But do not expect to CHANGE him. Only Guru can do that. Pray to Guru for guidance and strength, but don't ask Guru to CHANGE him, ask Guru to guide him to live his highest truth. Guru ang sang,
-DKK