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Summary of Question:	Re:Sikh And Muslim Marriages
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Friday, 3/12/2004 3:11 PM MST

Dear Respected Sikhnet Moderators,

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa
Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

First of all, I would like to thank you all for doing such a wonderful job at Sikhnet Youth Forum. Today as I was reading the queastions, I cam accross the follwoing, posted on 3/11/2004 at http://www.sikhnet.com/sikhnet/youth.nsf/by+Date/a436c575197d4a1a87256e5400531fc0?Open

GTKK wrote made the following statement in his reply above: "If you can work it out, go to one of the Gurdwaras in London and ask if you can be married there."

I have already submitted the post regarding DKK Ji's reply on a similar matter. But Sikhnet still has not posted it yet, not I have heard anything about it. I don't want to repeat myself, but all I would like to say that Sikhi does not allow Sikh marry a non-sikh. A Sikh cannot marry a non-sikh. Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji said in his bachan number 38 of 52 bachans that “Do not give your daughter’s hand to a clean-shaven”, and while explaining this bachan, Guru Ji further said, “Give her hand in a house where Akal Purukh’s Sikhi exist, where the household is not in debt, is of a good nature, is disciplined and knowledgable.” Same applies to the man too.

Now it is amazing that Sikhnet Moderators are giving replies that are totally agains Sikhism. Just think about it why a Sikh is not allowed to marry a non-sikh. A common sense would work the best. Just think aboutit. It there is still any doubt, please say so. We would go into details. Akali Phoola Singh Ji and Maharaja Ranjit Singhs were two well known personalities in Sikh History. Lets look at the follwoing incidence:

When Maharaja Ranjit Singh married to a Muslim woman, named Moran of Lahore, Akali Phula Singh, as he was the Jathedar of Akal Takth declared that Maharaja Ranjit Singh is not a Sikh anymore and is a Tankhaiya which means out of Sikhism. He ordered the defendant to be at Golden Temple before the sangat. Maharaja Ranjit Singh came and admitted that he had made a mistake. Akali Phula Singh ordered him 50 lashes for Maharaja Ranjit Singh right there. Ranjit Singh took off his shirt and bowed down to receive his punishment, at such Akali Phula Singh asked the Sadh Sangat to forgive the Maharaja who has bowed down in front of the Sadh Sangat for this mistake. And thus Maharaja was pardoned, but not before he promised that he will not marry again.

At the end, this is my humble request to Sikhnet Moderators that please be careful while replies to such questions and please please please try to see first what Sikhi has to say about it.

please forgive me if i have offended anyone.

bhul chuk di khima...

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It is not our job as moderators to "tell people what to do." I gave the person questions to consider individually and with their fiance. The decision must be theirs...not mine...not yours. They must consciously consider all of the ramifications and consequences to their choices in life...as must we all. I told them to approach a Gurdwara, because I knew that in that investigation they would get the answer. I will give you an example in my own life. When my daughter was "pre-med" in college, she announced to me and my husband that she wanted to go to another college for a year to have a different experience. Instead of telling her it was a bad idea, my husband and I told her to investigate the possibility and check it out with the Dean of the Medical School...which she did. Our daughter decided on her own that with her goal of wanting to be accepted into Medical School, it would not be wise for her to divert her energy by going to another college for a year. I will not "tell you" how to run your lives. I try to give you information and then ask you questions to get you to think so you can make your own best choices for your lives. If you don't like this style then don't read my postings. GTKK