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Summary of Question:	Re:Women Only Like Clean-Shaven Men
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 2/20/2007 1:12 AM MST

this is a reply to the post about women liking only clean shaven guys etc.

Hey dude, ur WRONG. ur saying that "women ONLY marry men they
find attractive and religion is second and looks come first.there is a major
double standerd in sikhism that women cut thier hair without guilt arguing that
women do it anyway but sikh men are labled traitors if they trim or cut their hair" is not always true. im a woman, im a Sikh Amritdhaari, and i like turbaned guys (looks-wise) more than clean shaven men. I have many friends (non-amritdhaari as well) that say they prefer turbaned guys. U don't need to cut ur hair and ur dad is right that u shouldn't cut ur hair just cuz he didn't have the himmat to keep his, doesn't mean U don't. Focus on the Guru. Who cares about people staring (im in that situation too and i hate hipocracy too, and believe me it gets me all worked up too, but i just remember that a Guru's SIkh is MEANT to stand out, he/she is NIARA). be in Chardi Kala, i won't stare at u if i c ya, lol. Bring urself closer to God and ur true life partner will be attracted to u through ur link with Waheguru. Be happy, be healthy : ).. i hope u don't cut ur hair out of desparation, etc. i believe in u bro.
harminder kaur



















Summary of Question: Angry, Tired Of The Hyprocisy And Double Standards
Category: Love & Marriage
Date Posted: Sunday, 2/04/2007 12:31 AM MST

i dont think im going to find a girlfriend or a wife unless i become clean shaven.....

truthfully if sikh women were to admit it that even religious sikh women
dont find turbanned singhs attractive..........women ONLY marry men they
find attractive and religion is second and looks come first.there is a major
double standerd in sikhism that women cut thier hair without guilt arguing that
women do it anyway but sikh men are labled traitors if they trim or cut their hair
...........now all the sikh women are going to respond by saying that turbanned
men arent supposed to be attractive but fearless etc but in reality when women get
together they only talk about clean shaven men ALL SIKH women hate turbanned men...........
im sikh and tired of being in a religion where even our own women hate sikh men.....and in
reality this is the truth.....i want to become clean shaven but cant because everybody will get 'angry'.......
my dad is clean shaven but he is a hypocrite and always tells me i should keep a beard and wear a turban
even when he smokes, drinks and eats meat......it makes my blood boil..........i dont understand why my mum kept my hair when she never even taught me about
sikhism and especially when my dad is cleanshaven......i am finding it so hard to learn about sikhism now in
my twenties and it makes me depressed, isolated and angry........i should be happy in this period of my life but because i wear a
turban it makes my unhappy and it restricts me........ i cant go out with my friends because they all go to bars/clubs and when i go to the gurdwara all
sikh men have trimmed beards and all the women are either married to or in relationships with cleanshaven men or men from other religions
.........abroad all sikh men cut their hair and women only marry clean shaven men..........even amongst sikhs i stand out when i should feel normal
whenever i go to the gurdwara all the sikhs stare at me....a gurwara is a place where i should feel normal and happy but all i get is stares and it makes me
angry.........outside i look different but also in the gurdwara i look different because i wear a turban
and keep a beard..........im tired of standing out in a crowd because i look different compared
to other men (women will not understand this as they look normal compared to other women so this problem doesnt affect you).........i dont know
what to do anymore im starting hate sikhism because wearing a turban and keeping a
beard in reality DOES restrict me because you cant do anything that normal people can......wearing a turban and
keeping a beard only leads to racism, rejection, depression and isolation and i want to know is whats the point anymore of following sikhism........
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